This is a tough one. I encountered much trouble of my own when a friend I'd lost returned in my last high school year. He'd heard the rumors and was convinced I was a gay stalker, sometime during his return within the first week.
Not knowing this, my solution was to try to get him to notice me and perhaps come over to say hello on his own.
What I did was stay "conveniently" within his field of vision, trying to offer more than quite a few pleasant chances to interrupt me and say hello.
I got a message two weeks later asking me to stop doing what I was doing, as he did not want to speak to me or even see me.
I didn't learn about the rumors until after the fact and the promise I'd relayed through his third party friend that I would never speak to, or acknowledge his existence again. (I still hold this promise.)
Long story short, I've had to learn the hard way that someone who is giving the silent treatment is being immature on their own, and as hard as it is, the best solution was for me to move on. I didn't have time to constantly worry!
As a side-note, I will add that sometimes people do not know they are giving the silent treatment...I lost a girlfriend once because I "never gave her any material showing of my affection". No warning whatsoever.
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Date: 2004-01-13 10:51 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-01-14 04:05 am (UTC)LOL
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Date: 2004-01-14 04:39 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-01-14 05:00 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-01-14 04:52 am (UTC)Or possibly with interpretive dance.
No wait.
With interpretive dance while in disguise. Or while disguised as an interpretive dancer.
You clearly aren't thinking *(Sideways), right, next impossible question.
*(couldn't spell laterally, laterily, latrelly, thingie)
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Date: 2004-01-14 05:04 am (UTC)*grin*
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Date: 2004-01-14 09:21 am (UTC)Not knowing this, my solution was to try to get him to notice me and perhaps come over to say hello on his own.
What I did was stay "conveniently" within his field of vision, trying to offer more than quite a few pleasant chances to interrupt me and say hello.
I got a message two weeks later asking me to stop doing what I was doing, as he did not want to speak to me or even see me.
I didn't learn about the rumors until after the fact and the promise I'd relayed through his third party friend that I would never speak to, or acknowledge his existence again. (I still hold this promise.)
Long story short, I've had to learn the hard way that someone who is giving the silent treatment is being immature on their own, and as hard as it is, the best solution was for me to move on. I didn't have time to constantly worry!
As a side-note, I will add that sometimes people do not know they are giving the silent treatment...I lost a girlfriend once because I "never gave her any material showing of my affection". No warning whatsoever.
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Date: 2004-01-14 06:26 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-01-14 10:22 am (UTC)Maybe give it a day or two, then go back and try again. That's all you can do, really.
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Date: 2004-01-14 06:30 pm (UTC)